Anthony M. Coniaris, a priest of the Greek Orthodox Archdiocese of America, begins his book with the prayers from the Wedding Service of the Orthodox Church:
"O Lord our God, Who by Your saving grace and presence in Cana of Galilee declared marriage honorable; Preserve your servants, whom You have been pleased to join together, in peace and love. Make their marriage honorable and blameless. Mercifully allow them to reach a ripe old age and to walk in Your commandments with a pure heart ... O bridegroom! Be exalted like Abraham, be blessed like Isaac, and multiply like Jacob, walking in peace, and righteously keeping God's commandment. And you, O bride! Be exalted like Sarah, rejoice like Rebecca, multiply like Rachael, and rejoice, fulfilling the conditions of the law, for this is well-pleasing to God. O God, our God, who came to Cana of Galilee and bless">
Book: Crown Them with Glory and Honor: 46 Brief Talks for Weddings
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Fr. Anthony writes that martyrdom in marriage is essential to true marital fulfillment: "without inner martyrdom, without sacrifice, without the crucifixion of ego and selfishness, there can be no true marriage" (p. 7). The ribbon joining together the two crowns binds the spouses in service to each other: they are "crowned king and queen for each other. You are to be each other's servants in love. Only as you live for each other, you will find in marriage fulfillment and joy" (p. 7-8).